When you need to be loved, you take love wherever you can find it. When you are desperate to be loved, feel love, know love, you seek out what you think love should look like. When you find love, or what you think love is, you will lie, kill, and steal to keep it. But learning about real love comes from within. It cannot be given. It cannot be taken away. It grows from your ability to re-create within yourself, the essence of loving experiences you have had in your life.

— Iyanla Vanzant

if theres a regret that’s been on your mind, or a conflict that’s been going on with someone in your social or family circle. Snap out of it! It’s time to focus on the joyful, the positive, the future!

It’s being here now that’s important. There’s no past and there’s no future. Time is a very misleading thing. All there is ever is the now. We can gain experience from the past, but we can’t relive it; and we can hope for the future, but we don’t know if there is one.

my best advice is that you two focus on improving and healing yourselves. the relationship will happen organically if you two are healthy. my biggest regret in life is that i didn’t set out to do my goals earlier. i wasted too much time focusing on the wrong relationships only to learn that the right one will come along. in the meantime, do the right thing, work hard on your goals and live your best life.

I think that those two people want to be together. I think that love, at the end of the day, is stronger than some mistake somebody made..something that they did that they regret. I think that love will ask for forgiveness.

.someday everything will come together..but until then..live it up..do what makes you happy..if someone doesnt agree..then fuck them…pick yourself up and deal when shit happens..remember mistakes only make us stronger..everything happens for a reason..the only regrets you have in life are the risks that you didnt take..and well behaved women rarely make history..above all else..go with your gut and guard your heart.

.being in a couple is hard..and committing..making sacrifices; it’s hard…but if it’s the right person, then it’s easy…looking at them and knowing they are all you really want out of life..that should be the easiest thing in the world.

— Marshall, How I Met Your Mother  (via ewokin)

.when you stop expecting people to be perfect.. you can like them for who they are..

many people don’t know that the human eye has a blind spot in it’s field of vision…there’s a part of the world we are literally blind to…the problem is, sometimes our blind spots shield us from things that really shouldn’t be ignored..sometimes our blind spots keep our lives bright and shiny.

as soon as you honor the present moment, all unhappiness and struggle dissolve, and life begins to flow with joy and ease…when you act out the present-moment awareness, whatever you do becomes imbued with a sense of quality, care, and love - even the most simple action.

.this life is what you make it…not matter what, you’re going to mess up sometimes, it’s a universal truth…but the good part is you get to decide how you’re going to mess it up…girls will be your friends - they’ll act like it anyway…but just remember, some come, some go…the ones that stay with you through everything - they’re your true best friends…don’t let go of them…also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. ..as for lovers, well, they’ll come and go too. And babe, I hate to say it, most of them - actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can’t give up becuase if you give up, you’ll never find your soul mate. You’ll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything…just because you fail once, doesn’t mean you’re gonna fail at everything…keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don’t, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life’s a beautiful thing and there’s so much to smile about.

.love takes time to build its defenses..and trust takes time to tear down those fences..and what remains is stronger than ever before.

if you live through defeat, you’re not defeated…if you are beaten but acquire wisdom, you have won…lose yourself to improve yourself…only when we shed all self-definition do we find who we really are.

— rza.

.theres no need to rush…if somethings meant to be..itll happen..in the right time..with the right person..and for the best reason.

.sometimes the best thing you can do is not think, not wonder, not imagine, not obsess…just breathe, and have faith that everything will work out for the best.